In watching The Chronicles of Narnia: The Voyage of the Dawn Treader, I quickly discovered that Eustace was a uncooperative nuisance and a continual party-crasher. A real bummer! Same for business ownership. There will be people who are a huge nuisance and you don’t want to be around them because they become a huge distraction, bring you down, and is bad for business.
For most business owners, they can’t stand to be around nuisance. Nuisance people tend to be negative, demeaning, lazy, and it’s unattractive…INSIDE. Now, I’m not saying you have to hang around negative people or even like them. On the contrary, you need to develop Positive Relationships and cultivating these type of friendships takes hard work and trust.
People Can Change If They Choose To
What I am saying though is that, given the right situation, knowledge, environment, and opportunity, nuisance-prone people can learn to change if they choose to. That’s just it…they have to WANT to make their lives better. We can’t accomplish this task for them.
People who decide to take the necessary steps for personal development and growth, realize that they genuinely can live positive, productive, and “attractive” lives. Have you ever been around a person, especially for me, it’s usually a female, who has a very profane and vulgar mouth? One who seems to use expletives every single word?
NOT VERY pretty, is it?
Caring and Encouraging Positive Action
Like Eustace in The Chronicles of Narnia: The Voyage of the Dawn Treader, some people just need some encouragement to become better human beings. Some need the knowledge to know better. I’m partial to this, however, because I believe there’s some “common sense” when it comes to behavior modification and breaking “bad habits”.
People, annoying, nuisance-prone people, need to know that someone cares about them, believes in them, and is willing to invest their time to help the “subject” discover that they can become more than what they currently are. In the scope of business ownership, this awareness is vital for any business to grow substantially with any value.
Usually speaking, Positive Changes in a person’s life takes Positive Action and doesn’t happen overnight. Especially, since bad habits have taken, sometimes, years to develop. It shouldn’t be expected to get a person who’s a nuisance to you and your business to change right away.
Nonetheless, with effort, determination, perseverance, knowledge, and taking action, positive and valuable results can exist!
It may take some time. Yet, it CAN happen.
Meeting Nuisance Head-On
So, what can one do? Well, I believe that we need to encourage those willing to change and leave behind anyone willing to remain belligerent, a nuisance, apathetic, lazy, who desires just to live a mediocre life. Not much you can do for them anyhow!
In the space of business ownership and entrepreneurship, meeting nuisance head-on can be a creative way to cultivate your patience. Invite these types of challenges, annoying customers, and see it as an opportunity to develop your personal growth.
How can you help? Below are 3 ways to help an annoying, nuisance-prone person break the “annoying,” sometimes destructive habits.
1. Help Them Identify When the Habit Appears Most Prominently
Conscience awareness is vital to identify when a bad habit appears. Often, habits appear just like clock-work, without much thought. It’s on the sub-conscience level that a solution becomes more challenging. There’s hope, though. I say that the bigger the challenge or obstacle, the more glory there is in overcoming it.
2. Help Them Define How Much Control They Have Over the Habit
Everyone wants control! Mostly, people with nuisance and bad habits just don’t know HOW to control themselves. No self-discipline. It becomes essential, especially in a business ownership situation, to gain control when circumstances get out of control. Someone who truly leads will be able to discern when they need to “jump in” and take control of an annoying customer or employee.
3. Help Them To Break the Habit By Replacing It With a Less-Annoying Habit
This is easier said than done, I know. Nonetheless, it’s better to replace a bad, sometimes destructive habit, with a lesser one because this allows them “space” to work through their behavior modification processes more effectively.
In my opinion, I’d rather see a person bite their nails than have them constantly interjecting their words by disrupting the conversation when I’m speaking.
Everyone reading this probably has been guilty of interrupting someone when they’re talking.
Most importantly, be patient and do your best to show grace and compassion when dealing with a nuisance. Show kindness, gentleness, self-control, and humility. Often times, if none of this works to help them, you just have to ignore the person and move on with your business and life!
Whether in a business ownership or merely in life, you’ll soon discover that people can, and will, be a distracting nuisance. They WILL exist. It’s a part of life. Fortunately, people can change if they choose to. As Servants and those who Lead, we are entrusted to lead by example and illustrate what it means to be overcome bad habits and to live positive, productive, and attractive lives.
In The Chronicles of Narnia: The Voyage of the Dawn Treader, you’ll notice that Eustace realized his annoying behavior and how he had become a “royal” nuisance to everyone. It took great deal of encouragement, grace, and patience to have Eustace turn around from his actions. Eustace made such a turn around, that his actions influenced C. L. Lewis’ next 2 The Chronicles of Narnia books.
Do you suppose you could help someone overcome their bad habits? If so, how do you suppose helping someone if you’ve got to conquered your own bad habits? Once you do become victorious, how will this “defeat” cultivate you into a better, more courageous person?